My worth is now about the impact I make on others
I have done a lot of work the past few years to focus on not be driven by ego in terms of needing to feel validated by others for my value and worth. I used to chase BIG roles for their scope, title, team size and pay/other rewards. Now none of that matters to me. I choose to focus on the impact I make to others and who I’m being. This is when I have fulfilment.
I found myself being tested recently when I was making a MASSIVE life decision about whether I would return from maternity leave. I needed to decide whether I would to go back to lululemon, where I had worked for the past 11 years or step fully into my coaching business. My old behaviours/patterns emerged, where I was tempted to go back requesting all of the things I used to be driven by. More money. More responsibility. Of course it feels good to be recognised and have that role that you always thought you wanted. However when I tuned into what I really want, what was important to me (my values) I had to bring it back to my purpose, who I’m here to be and say NO. It was such a hard decision as I was worried about having no secure income, l doubted whether I will be able to create success in my business, I wondered what will others think etc. What I reminded myself is it’s not about living for what others will think. Who cares for others thought!
It’s a false sense of identity this need that I had to feel secure by being validated by others and focused on success of roles, or pay money & materials. These are all external factors and come from a place of lack. I needed to focus on internal peace and happiness. Valuing myself. It’s challenging as I’ve been conditioned to think this way for over 30 years.
Things will always come to us to test us and to try take us off track - it’s important that we honour ourselves & follow our own path & not be swayed by others.
I have never felt more grateful to be able to spend time with my 1 year old each day and build an incredible impact focused business. Where I get to do what I love and help others!
Do you want support stepping into what it is that your heart truly desires? Book a free 30min coaching discovery call with me. Click the link below